Out of all the various public transportation options in the world, I must confess that I hate buses.  Give me a train to watch the scenery whiz by me in blurry bursts of beauty.   Give me a plane to stare out dreamily at the puffy white clouds.  Give me an underground subway with my ears perked up to the surrounding mosaic of conversations and music all around.  But, buses, no, not for me.  Cramped, Crowded, and Confused.  Those are the three adjectives I think of with busses.  My only exception is Bus #11.    Let me tell you about Bus #11.

Long ago around the time when I was learning to drive, my father told me about Bus #11:  “My main form of transportation growing up was Bus #11.  Bus #11 is walking as your transportation because the 11 is like your two legs.  A very reliable form of transportation where you do not have to catch any transportation or check on any schedule, but just go when you are ready, willing, and able.  Get it?”

 

Yes, I got it.  I also got into having to confront my much-loathed buses and much-loved Bus #11 when I met with my adopted grandfather—specifically, Grandpa Mike.  Grandpa Mike and I had met at an organ, eye, and tissue donation advocacy event.  He had donated his wife’s tissues when she had died suddenly of a heart attack.  On a sultry and sticky, hot and humid day in August, Grandpa Mike and I met in the magic and mayhem of New York City.  Unlike me, Grandpa Mike LOVED busses!  He loved busses so much that he had worked for them and, because he worked for them, he had a lifetime bus pass to get in to one bus after another completely free.  He said to me, “You stick with me.  I will tell them you are my granddaughter.  You won’t have to pay anything.”  I chuckled and laughed in response. 

For this one day that I would spend with Grandpa Mike, I could tuck away my discord and dislike for busses.  By the time I finally found Grandpa Mike sitting patiently waiting for the bus, my tardiness had caused us to miss the latest bus to the Intrepid Air, Space, and Sea Museum.  I felt badly for my delay and kept apologizing, but he said to me: “Don’t worry about it.  There will be another bus.  We will catch the next one.  Everything is timing.” 

When we finally caught the bus, I plopped down basking in the blast of air conditioning.  Busses weren’t so bad after all.  Grandpa Mike and I fell into an easy conversation about our family and while I showed his pictures of my loved ones on my iPhone, he whipped out his wallet and started showing me hard copy photos of his loved ones.   

  

Grandpa Mike kept offering to hold my bags and belongings when he had more bags than me.  He continued to refuse allowing me to carry his bags as well as to pay for anything.  With unexpected strength, he continued to swipe away my hand and wallet when I was about to pay like a fly he was ready to swat.   He said to me, “No you will not pay.  Grandparents treat their grandchildren.  Also, remember this as you are a lady, men should always pay. Always have a man treat you like a lady and pay your way.” 

I tilted my head in confusion and tried to explain, “Times are different now, Grandpa Mike.  Women pay or men and women can go into it 50/50.”

“If a man likes you and invites you then he should pay.  You can call me old-fashioned, but I do not think it is right that women pay or about going 50/50.  I think that is why there are lots of relationship issues and confusion now,” Grandpa Mike reasoned. 

At the peak of heat, Grandpa Mike and I traipsed around New York City.  We watched in wonder at children running through dancing sprinklers and toured the Intrepid Museum that is a military and maritime museum.  Grandpa Mike told me that him and other Veterans were invited and honored every year on Veterans Day to a very special and poignant ceremony there at the Intrepid museum.  He said, “You should come next time.” 

It was getting hotter and hotter and I was getting more and more tired.  Bus #11 of walking and walking more was getting exhausting.  Yet, there was Grandpa Mike at over 6 feet tall and 85-years-old with waterfalls of sweat dripping down his crinkly, wrinkly, and happy face and two bad knee caps—and not a complaint from his lips.  Then, there was me at not even five foot with a 6-year-old hip replacement, and I could not help but mutter a mumble of “Dang, it is so hot” or “Oooh…here we got air conditioning!”  I could not believe how much of a wimp I was next to Grandpa Mike.  I could not believe how much energy he had.  After spending almost six hours together, I suggested to Grandpa Mike: “Grandpa Mike, I’m concerned about how hot it is for both of us and especially you, so I was going to get us an Uber.”

“Absolutely not.  We are going to catch the bus,” he insisted stubbornly. 

At that point, impeccable timing struck because we passed by someone who was in a wheelchair.  Grandpa Mike pulled me close to him and whispered, “That could be either of us in a wheelchair.  We are very lucky that we have legs to walk.  We always have to be grateful for what we got.  We always have to count our blessings.” 

Well, wasn’t that the truth?  When we arrived at the bus station, the bus that we were about to board had driven away.  Great, we had missed the bus.  Luckily, there was a bench for us to sit on.  I think Grandpa Mike could tell that I was getting exhausted, frustrated, and now disappointed that we had missed the latest bus because he cleared his throat and said slowly: “Do you know the story about a blacksmith who ‘strikes while the iron is hot’?” 

I shook my head.  I was trying to stay focused on Grandpa Mike and the story he was about to tell me, but I was getting so hot and tired.  I took a swig of water and refocused again.

“’’Strike while the iron is hot’ is all about taking opportunities when the timing is right and calls for them. A blacksmith can only strike an iron and form something from the iron when it is the right heat.  Too hot or too cold will not work.  It always has to be the right temperature and time.  It always is about the right timing.  And, remember that you have to take that opportunity when it comes.  There is nothing sadder than to miss out on an opportunity or a second chance.  There are only so many chances we are given in life.”     

In a short time thereafter, the bus finally arrived.  Grandpa Mike and I sat in the quiet comfort of air conditioning and the hum of conversations all around us.  I could not remember the last time I had sat in a bus.  I could not remember the last time I went back in time in my mind to my Dad telling me about Bus #11 and that it is when we walk or take transportation that may be slower and require us to wait that magical moments seem to be made or come to us when we least expect them or could ever see them.  I thought about Grandpa Mike and about timing, gratitude, attitude, and that while one person may complain and grumble about their problems that there will be another person who will not even see a problem at all.  I gave Grandpa Mike a tight hug before I departed from the bus.  I did not know when I would see him again, but I had discovered this: Maybe busses are not so bad after all.  Especially Bus #11. 

I think we experience more in life than we could ever imagine write about experiencing more in life than we could ever when we board Bus #11.  Have you ever spent a day or time with someone who introduced you to new thoughts and ideas and, perhaps, even changed your views?  When was the last time you ‘struck while the iron was hot’?  Or realized the unbelievable and incredible magic of timing of catching or missing something?  When have you boarded Bus #11? 

Keep smilin’ until we meet again,

Mary