Every start of January, without fail, there are more people than ever at my gym. It has reached a point for me that I fight to find and zip my car into a parking spot and battle swim lanes with a newbie who has the same new year resolution as me to ‘Lose the Weight’ from the packed on pounds that came from sweets galore over the holidays. A place that is meant to decompress, debrief, and destress has turned into a war zone of huffing and puffing, beads of sweat, and skyrocketing motivation and inspiration to ‘be better’ and ‘do better’ this year even if that means knocking someone aside and saying “No, this is my swim lane” or “That spinning bike and treadmill was mine.” How many times have you heard ‘Good-bye previous year and Hello new year…please let it be better,” ? Sometimes, I look around and wonder if we are really better?
Beginning about five years ago or so, I stopped making New Year Resolutions with my #1 resolution to lose weight. I started seeing that it should not take a new year to be my motivation, but it should be a year round phenomenon. I also started contemplating on how my years had been. So, now, just about every New Year’s Eve, I really reflect on how the year went and all that I did and who played positive and/or negative impacts in my year. All of these little bit mean a whole lot going forward to a future that remains a mystery and question mark for us all.
At the very core of my reflections is about ‘better.’ We typically think of ‘better’ as more or bigger, but as each and every year is passing by, I am finding that ‘better’ is actually less, the bare minimum, and ‘less is more.’ Less doing. Less saying and speaking to make room and balance out listening and hearing that leads to the ultimate of learning. Less ‘things.’ Spending time with less people and those select few people who really mean the most and who really care about you and come through for you. Less often requires us to ‘leave’ or ‘let go’ something old to welcome the new that often comes unexpected. I have more so been the recipient of being left and rarely the one who leaves, but towards the end of 2017 and on the brink of 2018, I came to realize that sometimes you have no choice but to leave and let go and to do with less to ‘be better.’ It is when we have less and little to nothing that we really see how plentiful we really and truly are and what and who matters and what and who does not.
‘Skim the fat’ is about being better through ‘less as more,’ which often requires us to leave behind and let go. I may not be spending each year gung-ho on losing the physical packed on pounds, but I am certainly spending time on ‘skimming the fat,’ or the excess, of what is not needed or the less that is needed to make room for what truly is.
Are you into New Year’s Resolutions? What situations have you been in where you had no choice but to ‘skim the fat’?
Happy & Healthy 2018 with safety and peace to all!