On a rickety old and gnarled bench on the grounds of my apartment complex, one of my closest and dearest friends sat next to me in silence. You know you have a good friend when you can enjoy each other’s company and companionship in complete silence, talk on and on about anything and everything, finish each other’s sentences, read each other’s thoughts just from a sideward glance, or when all the time passes by and it never felt like it went by. Is your life lucked out with such a friend as this? How lucky I was! This friend came to visit me and walk patiently by my side after yet another health debacle. In the midst of my friend as I soaking up the sun rays and enjoying the gentle breeze, we slipped into a conversation about karma.
“I don’t believe in it,” she said bluntly, “Just about all the people I know who are bitchy or nasty have gotten ahead and I haven’t seen anything bad happen to them where they got their just desserts. When you are nice, people walk all over you and take advantage of you. When you are nasty and screw over others, you get ahead.”
“Yeah, but you get ahead out of people fearing you and not loving you. Do you want others to do something for you because they love and respect you or because they dislike and fear you? At the end of the day, you have to face only you and all your demons. I want to be a bitch, but I do not have it in me. Treating others with respect and kindness and not screwing others is key in life because it is the right thing to do AND because bad can come to bite you in the butt later on in life. Karma takes care of those who have hurt or harmed others when least expected and unseen.” I said.
“Well, I haven’t witnessed karma in action. What goes around doesn’t necessarily come around.”
At a young age, I fully understood and accepted that life is unfair. I never wished ill on anyone, but I often wondered if people could live my life and if I could live their life? I often hear people’s problems and I think: “Dang, I would love those problems!” or “Well, there is always someone who has it worse. Be thankful for what you got because it can get away at any given moment.”
There have been times that I certainly wished for the seemingly the simple and society-filled life, though I understand and am content now not to fit in the majority and society mold and just make my own mold by living, leading, and enjoying my own world and life. I never purposefully instigated hurt or harm on to anyone, though I have fully felt and experienced the wrath of others unto me that I like to think was unintentional. Have you experienced the wrath and hurt of others unto you? Did those who hurt you receive hurt back that you witnessed?
Even when someone hurt me, I did not wish to mimic their wrath back to them or to others because I knew: 1) I was bigger and better than that and 2) What goes around comes around. It is not my ‘job’ or place to judge others or seek or inflict revenge on to those who hurt me. Frankly, I do not have the energy or time to waste on miserable and dramatic people who get joy out of inflicting misery on to others; I purposefully steer clear from these people if feasible. It is my place to just try to be a good and the better person to help others—and, let me tell you, the older I get, the more I realize how difficult it really is to be and do good and to be honest with yourself and with others. Being good is not easy; Being good takes efforts. Nothing easy is ever worthwhile. Do you find the same thing?
What do you think about karma? Do you believe in it and that, indeed, what goes around comes around? Do you know any miserable and dramatic people who get joy out of inflicting misery drama on to others? Would you rather be feared or loved to get what you want? Have you ever experienced Karma, or maybe it is the unexplainable that happens when we are not here on earth?
Keep smilin’ until we meet again,